According to John M. Gottman PhD., a leading researcher in the field of couple's therapy, at the very foundation of a happy and successful relationship lies marital friendship. It is simply not enough to love each other, or be romantically attracted to each other, to have a strong relationship. What is also very important is the quality of our friendship, which includes the following several components; how much you know your partner, whether you think and feel positively abo

Talking about difficult issues and attempting to find a solutions is inevitable situation in any relationship. Often, you don't want talk “about it” because of the fear of the whole conversation “going wrong” and ending up with the usual arguments and unpleasant feelings. John Gottman, a leading researcher in the field of relationships, states: “discussions inevitably end on the same note they begin”. He aruges you can set a stage for how the rest of your conversation will

In my conversations with my clients, friends and family, I often hear people say to me that they want to be completely independent. For many, it is an ideal goal as our society puts independence on a pedestal. And yet, as much as we strive, many of us fail to reach that ideal of being completely independent. Perhaps the challenge lies in the fact that the goal might be simply unattainable? Or if it is, does it come at a very high price? What Is 'Independent'? First, let’s ex

Connection and dialogue between partners is vital any relationship, in order to have an intimate, close connection with your loved one. The ability to connect, to be together, to have dialogue, and meet each other half-way is crucial for the relationship to be nurturing and satisfying. Most times couples counselling happens because a couple have lost this sense of connection and, as a result, are sad, frustrated and scared. Obviously, they would like to have the feeling of b

Many of us see romantic love as a foundation of marriage or romantic partnership. When you make that commitment to your loved one, you hope that your love will last forever and that things will be as exciting and romantic as they are at the start of the relationship. It is easy to be in love at the beginning of meeting your special someone. All of your thoughts and actions at that time are devoted to your new partner. It is effortless to keep them in mind, and give them all

Let's be clear, conflict in relationships is unavoidable. It tends to happen and is part of being a human being, in any relationship. Therefore, this blog isn't about avoiding conflict, but what you can do differently when conflict arises. This will help you diminish hurt, misunderstanding and other unpleasant experiences. Most conflicts happen because couples don't know what to do when there is a difference in wishes, opinions, dreams, values and attitudes. During your li